Mothers Day

My day was pretty good. I woke up and my husband went and got me breakfast. I just rested, watched TV and read today. I did go to my Moms for a little bit to give her her prezzie.

Looks like a busy week to come. I have a dentist appointment tomorrow and Isaiah has baseball practice in the evening in town. Jake and Isaiah both have games on Tuesday. There is one at 6 then one at 8. So, I will be at the ballpark from 5:30 until 10! My Mom is gonna come over and be with the kids that don't have to go. I don't want Gracie to have to be there that long, and even though the 2 older kids are old enough to be here alone- I don't feel right about leaving them for that long. An hour or two maybe, but not that long.

My SIL is having a purse party on Wed., I will be going to that and taking the 2 girls with me.

Thursday, Friday and Saturday are baseball days again!

I do plan on studying a lot this week during the daytime hours when the kids are at school. I have to commit to more time than I am now. I can't let other things that need to be done around the house come before school. It's hard not to though!

Murf was in a good mood all weekend, then started getting a little grumpy just a little bit ago. I know it's because his weekend is over and he is back to work tomorrow. Poor guy has no time through the week for anything other than driving to work, work, and sleeping.

-Text messaging-

We got a family text plan last week. The kids had to watch how many texts they were sending before, then we got smart (after a big texting bill) and got the unlimited text plan. OMG- I can't believe how much they are texting. It's insane! The funny part is that we live in the country and don't even get a cell signal in most places. So- i see 2 of the teens out in the driveway sitting in the back of Murf's truck texting. They can get a signal there. Or sitting on the picnic table in the back yard, or standing in a certain spot in the yard! I can't imagine how many times they would be texting if they could get a signal in the living room or in their room! LOL! I've heard people say that they could get carried away with texting- now I understand!

I'm happy that they have it, really. It beats them fighting over the telephone and they spend less time online now too!

Happy Mothers Day to all the Moms out there!!!!!!

This poor 15 year old boy!!!

My husband and I have full custody of his 2 boys. I am helping to raise them- well actually with his new work schedule, I AM raising them! Their mother is mentally ill. It is so hard dealing with someone mentally ill. She has made parts of our life hell for the last 9 years. I never know when the phone rings and i see it's her, if it is going to be a civilized conversation or if she is going to cuss me out and and hang up on me. I can take it. What I can't stand it when she cusses out the boys. We are having a problem with the oldest boy, J, not wanting to go to her house for her visitation. We do talk him into going or sometimes just flat out make him go for the most part. Now, when there is something important scheduled on her weekend, we don't force him to go. He doesn't trust her to get out of bed and take him where he needs to go. This weekend, he was asked to come to a pitching clinic for baseball. The coach only asked a few kids to come and he was one of them. It is early on Saturday morning and he really wants to go. He is supposed to go to his Moms this afternoon, but told me he wanted to go to the pitching clinic tomorrow, then go to her house afterwards. He called her to explain and she cussed him up one side and down the other and put him on a guilt trip. After she treated him like that, he said he wasn't going to her house at all this weekend. Then she called back to talk to me. I tried explaining that she is pushing him away- every time he asks to stay home and she throws a fit- it pushes him away. That every single visitation weekend he doesn't want to come and we force him to, that once in awhile, it is okay for him to miss. He is 15 and before long it will be up to him and he won't EVER go- if she keeps it up. Of course, I get to hear how awful and horrible and I am. Then i just told her that i was sick of her cussing me and calling me every name in the book to the boys- that i am raising her children for HER and that deserves some respect! UGh- she ended up yelling and hanging up on me. I tried to call her back to tell her that I would MAKE him go to her house on Mothers Day, but she wouldn't answer. I called 84000 times and she would never pick up and she doesn't have an answering machine. OMG- I am so sick of dealing with her and feel so bad for the boys for having to go there. She keeps threatening to take us to court if we don't force them to come to her house. She told the oldest last night that if he didn't come she was gonna take his dad to court and they would throw him in jail! LOL! When I talked to her- I told her to quit threatening the kids with that- that there was no way they were gonna throw Murf in jail because our 15 year old son missed one weekend visitation every 3 or 4 months! That maybe instead of threatening it- she could just go ahead and file something so we could get this settled once and for all!

UGH! This boy is 15! What a shame that he has to go through this! It makes me sick for him!

I don't usually have to talk to her directly or have to deal with her. Murf usually handles it- but he wasn't home- and they never get anything resolved between the 2 of them- so I tried to help. Harumph! Some help!

I'm sure I'll have another day of dealing with her! Lord help me!!!

Money isn't everything!

I have finally had enough of my husbands work schedule. I seriously am about to have a melt down. I am supposed to be doing school during the day while the kids are at school- but when am i supposed to get everything else that needs done done? I mean, as soon as they get home from school, I am super busy- getting dinner made, running back and forth to town, helping with homework or stupid projects that get assigned! I don't mind projects so much for the middle school kids, but when my 9 year gets the assignment to build a solar system- i think it's bullshit. Seriously- like he is gonna be able to do it?

There comes a time when you realize that money isn't that important. Sure, you have to have enough to live- but isn't that enough? I'm grateful that my husband makes great money- i am. But the cost to our family is too high now. I feel like a single mom with a checkbook. The kids only see him on weekends and on occasion very briefly through the week. I am responsible for everything here. (aside from money of course) All things kid. I have a 15 year old boy, a boy that will be 13 in a couple of weeks, a girl that will be 13 in less than a month, a soon to be 10 year old boy, and Gracie who is 7. They are good kids, really. I am constantly breaking up bickering between the 3 teens though. Lawsy jane- I can't believe how much they like to bicker. I have come to believe that they really enjoy it! They seek out ways to aggravate each other (and me in the process)!
I am not one to cry real easy. I never have been, but lately I can cry at the drop of a hat. Especially when it has to do with something coming up that I haven't planned. Like a make-up baseball game for tomorrow, or my oldest forgetting to tell me he has a school dance TOMORROW! It doesn't seem like major things, but when you have to drive 20 minutes each way, then figure out what to do with (or feel guilty for all the time the teens spend alone) the other 4 kids- it gets you down!

Sorry if I've gotten anyone "down" by this post. I'm just so overwhelmed right now-

Just stuff!

Sometimes I feel like I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off. Then the weekend comes! AHHH! My husband is home on the weekends and can help me with the 5 children. He can help me run them to town and pick them up from their activities. We sit and talk after the kids go to bed- real grown-up talk! We eat as a family! I just love the weekends!

I got all the laundry done and the house totally cleaned this weekend! I love the feeling of everything clean and put away. Even though- with 5 kids, I know it won't last!

I am going shopping again today with my oldest daughter. She is finishing up the 6th grade and has never made a B in her life. She has been a straight A student all through school so far- so I feel like that deserves a special gift. Not a gift for being smart, but a gift for being disciplined. I know it's frivilous, but I plan on buying her a small Coach purse. She would really like to have one and I feel like she deserves it.

I'll post more after our shopping adventure!

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OOOhh! Fun was had! She got the cutest little coach purse! It's a signature bag with bright colors on it. I also got the signature bag with the blue handles I have been wanting forever! Too cute! She was so excited- and it's fun watching her "fuss" over that bag!

Okay- I also got a pair of sunglasses. Last year I bought a pair of fairly inexpensive sunglasses and told myself that if I could keep them for a year and not break them or lose them, then I would spring for the ones I really wanted! So, a year has passed and I still have those glasses. Now, I have the ones I really wanted too!

What a great day!! The best part is- my husband paid for my purse and sunglasses for an early Mothers Day gift!!